The previous section was the image-based attack. The relation-based attack focuses on interactions between the two genders. We already have their heads swimming with images and standards of what an attractive man or woman should be. Our next move is to muddy the waters concerning what kind of man or woman they should date/mate with. Their reasons for choosing a mate with particular characteristics vary from “that’s what they deserve” to getting affirmation of their own manhood or womanhood. Note the common denominator of their reasons for choosing: the focus of the relationship is on the self. That is the brimstone standard for infernal relationships. A tempter can manage with a relationship focused on the other, but it creates a sort of selflessness as a byproduct that can give the Enemy a foothold. The one thing that we absolutely don’t want is for the relationship to be centered on the Enemy.
Selfishness is a vital component of a relationship because it is the foundation on which you can build any number of dysfunctions. The other part of the couple becomes an objectified source of gratification. This dynamic is more visible in some relationships than others, and we will further clarify it by examining two relationship types:
“Say My Name” Relationships – This kind of relationship is something of a tempter classic. The human goal is to use the other person to bolster one’s status as a man or a woman. This relationship is one they use to convince themselves that they are successful as a man or woman. We can thank our propagandists for setting the stage for this kind of relationship by convincing the flesh creatures that a man or woman is only complete if they have the “right” member of the opposite sex by their side. We are also able to graft into their minds the concept of the trophy wife or husband. Our infernal standards of what is or isn’t desirable are most effectively deployed in this type of relationship.
Consider the stereotypical dynamic of a cheerleading captain dating the star quarterback of the football team: whether you look at it from the perspective of the male or the female, the relationship centers squarely upon status. Can you see how each uses the other as a mark of success as a man or a woman? Notice how one human is using the other as a means to an end rather than being an end in and of him or herself. This depersonalization is exactly what we want to see in a relationship.
Now imagine if this kind of relationship were broken, what might the effects on the flesh creature be? The relationship was their way of knowing that they are a successful man or woman; if that is taken away, so is part of their security. This newfound insecurity can, and should, be exploited to the fullest extent. One way to go about this is to bring them so far down that they question whether they really are what a man or woman should be. Care needs to be taken not to leave the Enemy any room to exercise His influence here to answer their question. The humans must take our answer or not find one at all. The other option is to play off of the unpleasantness of their insecurity and get them to rush into another relationship just like the last.
“Identity” Relationships – This variety of relationship is a mutation of the “Say My Name” relationship. The difference between the two is that the identity relationship is aimed at securing the answer to the fundamental question of “Am I a man/woman?” The “say my name” relationship was a question of degree (i.e. “how successful of a man or woman am I?”) The identity relationship centers on the question of being in the category at all. In this case, again, we can see the human-as-a-means dynamic at work. The human goal in this relationship is to know that they are a “real” man or a “real” woman. This sort of pathetic wretch cannot be sure if he or she is what they are supposed to be unless they have a member of the opposite sex in a “romantic” relationship with them.
The great irony of this type of relationship is that what they are seeking cannot be found in the place they are looking. Our espionage indicates that current opinion in the Enemy’s camp is that only the Enemy can confirm what it means to be a “real” man or woman and if the human meets the criteria. Such an answer is expected, given that everything there seems to revolve around Him. That is just another reason why Our Father Below was moved to rebellion. After all, who could put up with such narcissism besides those sycophant seraphim? Needless to say, there is no cause to worry that they might actually find what they are looking for as long as they are looking to the opposite gender for the answer. That is simply not information they have to give.
Breaking a relationship of this kind provides us with some absolutely delightful possibilities. When a human with this kind of relationship loses it, they are effectively being told that they are not really a man or a woman. Once again, we are presented with two options of how to deal with their insecurity and confusion. First, there is the option of using their emotions to push them back into a similar relationship. The second option is one that promises greater accomplishment. In the “say my name” type of relationship, we had the option to bring them to this “identity” stage in which they require a member of the opposite sex in order to know if they are a man or woman. In this case, however, we are starting with the human wondering if he or she is a real man or woman. We can use the same operation as before and, this time, break them on a fundamental level. We are not talking about merely confusing their identity. We are talking about a blow to their spirit that will forever be a point of reckoning for them.
It is now standard procedure for us to lay the groundwork for this maneuver during childhood via deprivation of the instruction or confirmation of masculinity or femininity. Thus, we have already primed them for the kind of blows we can deal by severing particular relationships. If these are properly dealt at the right times, a competent tempter can stir up bitterness and self-hate that will take years to settle down (if ever) and severely compromise the wretch’s ability to have romantic relationships. The reason why this status is so prized in fiendish circles is that the inner workings of the flesh creatures are interconnected. Cripple one and the rest will suffer. Thus, a shutdown of the human’s ability to have romantic relationships will have a global effect on all of their other relationships.
However, this operation doesn’t come without risk. You must know by now that the Enemy does in fact call some of the wretches to life as a bachelor or bachelorette. Always be certain that you are moving them away from the Enemy so that your hubris doesn’t lead you into ignorantly going along with His plans. Those foolish enough to do so deserve their punishment.
Those are the two best examples of the other-as-object-of-gratification dynamics in relationships. For the purposes of this text, we will limit the discussion of relationships to these two. The important thing for you to take away from this section is the idea that in any relationship, not just the romantic variety, you are to lead the human to focus on him or herself. Do not allow the Enemy to become the center of any of the flesh creature’s relationships. Should you allow that to happen, you will find that all of your best attacks will only yield temporary emotional results.
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